By Steven Elder
What to do after you have cheated on your spouse?
Cheating can be the one of the dumbest things you can ever do.
Seriously if there were a chart from 1-10 of the stupidest things you can do in your life, cheating has to be in the top 3. No one wakes up in the morning and says to themselves today “Hey I’m cheating on my spouse today,” or “Hey today I am in a cheating mood.”
Noooooo, never! There’s always a feeling or what I like to call it, a luster. You get this idea of this person and the lust for them and then you act on it. If your not the 1% of Douche bags that live among us, afterwards you feel terrible. You say to yourself, Man what the hell was I thinking?
Suddenly the girl that looked like Nicki Minaj mixed with Kim Kardashian now looks like the devil. Hey we all make mistakes but what do you do when you’ve made one of the dumbest mistakes like cheating?
Well here’s a couple of ideas to get you started:
#1 You have to come clean.
Hey don’t be like me, trying to be sneaky about it and when she finds out about it acting stupid like I don’t see what she’s looking at in my phone. Smh.
The worst thing you can do is try to keep it on the low and then it comes to the light. Some women/men would rather you be honest with them before finding out on their own that you cheated on them. Even if it hurts the person at least they can say hey such and such cheated but they kept it real with me.
#2 Have to prove yourself
Hey you might get that second chance either way but once you get it you can’t blow it. You are going to have to go through the flames though. Meaning you are going to have to deal with the accusing, the bitterness, the “where you at”, the “what time”, and the “how long” questions. I mean you’re going to have to be straight militant in this second chance because she or he is going to put you through it.
You’re not going to be able to do anything without hearing their mouth. It’s worth it if you have a good one. Shoot I’ll go through it all just to have my smooches back. Unfortunately it was one and done with me but hey if you got a real one and their giving you that second chance don’t blow it.
#3 Go above and beyond.
If you didn’t do this your first time around, I suggest you tighten up. Go further than you ever have. You have to show them you changed and you’re ready to regain their trust. So if you were giving her flowers every other week, now you gotta give em twice a week. You have to be willing to go out on more dates, show more love and affection.
Going above and beyond in this case means telling her your every move and shooting a text or call when you’re there. Even if you’re somewhere you can't use your phone, just a quick “Hey baby I’m going to call you back,” will help a lot. You have show her you can be trusted.
Give her the passwords to all of your accounts and the code to phone. Remember, she’s the prize that you dogged when you went behind her back and snaked her. Yeah I said it, snaked her and you did. So it’s up to you to show her you’re different now and you’ll do anything to make her happy.
Now if you follow these steps and still somehow blow it, that’s on you man. Hey don’t try to sue me man, because I am beyond broke. The only thing I have that’s worth some money is my lamp and it doesn’t work. So just follow these instructions and work to gain your spouse’s trust. You won’t regret taking this advice and applying it. Good luck!!